Talk:Debbie Barham

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THE INVISIBLE GIRL

I have found it to be one of the most moving books that I have read for a long time, as i have a sister of my own who was also like Deb`s I understand more now about the sighns we dont see when it is some one we love, my sister was the same age as when Debs first developed anorexia nervosa that was 32 years ago now and there was not much info on it then, my sister was at high school and she was studding all the time until 3am or 4 am in the morning and only getting may be 2 or 3 hours sleep before going to school for the day, she ended up in hospital very sick and the doctors back then said that what she had was an older persons sickness they didn`t even give it a titel, my sister is still with us today but will never have children due to anorexia nervosa and has had a lot of problems in her relaship, we as a family know and love her but in the deep bark back ground the scars will always hornt my sister.--58.162.75.175 01:57, 4 August 2006 (UTC)K M B

The Invisible Girl~'Debbie'

I was given this book as a Christmas present in December 2007 fromone of my many childhood friends. I must admit, I wasn't overly excited about reading it.

How mad was I, huge appologies to both Debbie and Peter! Heartwarming, frustrating, fantastic, sad, funny....the list is endless!

It is an extremely moving book and made me realise how real this illness is. I will no longer agree with friends and collegues when they comment on another looking anorexic, that is too flippant and ignorant for this illness. Reading this book has made me more open minded and so very grateful that I have lead the life I still lead.

I have an eight year old son and a six year old daughter and I know in my heart I will never forget Miss Deborah Ann Barham and will use both her achievements and failures (sorry Debbie!) as examples, to hopefully guide my children safely into adulthood.

Parenthood is not an easy job. It comes with no instruction manual and we do our best. People judge and criticise all the time, that's human nature, it is only when you look back and think "could I have done it better" that we realise our errors. Are they errors though in our parenting, or is that as children we simply have a mind of our own and will do what we want regardless of what our parents want or say as soon as we flee our nest?

I came from a single parent family and feel I have had a happy childhood, I have still managed to tell my wonderful mum who really did do her best, that she should have done things differently with me and my upbringing. I now find myself raising my own children alone, trying my best, something I swore I would not have to do alone! No guarantees!

I hope I do a good job and I would like to thank Peter (and Debbie) for this book I find myself wanting to read again and again...something I never do.

Sleep well Debbie, I hope you found complete happiness. To your Dad and the rest of your family, friends and collegues, although her life was so tragically short, you all did something so right or I wouldn't be writing this now. Thankyou for the pleasure and the heartache xxxx 27th February 2008 NSS

Wow ! I bought this book on Thursday afternoon, by Friday night I had finished it. I simply couldn't put it down. Very well written and BIG thanks must go to the writers, especially to her father Peter who must have found this very hard to do. Obviously I never new Debs, but thanks to the book I feel that I did. May her memory live long xx Andy H xx —Preceding unsigned comment added by 92.9.207.137 (talk) 18:27, 31 May 2008 (UTC)