Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned" is a 2014 memoir written by Lena Dunham. The book, a collection of autobiographical essays, lists, and emails, was released in hardcover by Random House on September 30, 2014, and in paperback on October 20, 2015.
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Random House purchased the rights to the essay collection in October 2012 after a bidding war generated by Dunham's 66-page book proposal. Bidding was reported to have risen past $3.5 million. Not That Kind of Girl was published September 30, 2014. The book is dedicated to Nora Ephron.
Sloane Crosley for The New York Times said the book was often hilarious but not ground-breaking in content. Crosley cautioned that attempts to view Dunham as a bellwether of modern feminism would unfairly overshadow the author. Hadley Freeman, in a review for The Guardian, described Dunham as being a smart and talented writer, and the book as being brutally honest, but also narcissistic and thin in experience. In The New Republic, James Wolcott found the book filled with "chatty punch lines, airy anecdotage, and sour kiss-offs" and, ultimately, "callow, grating, and glibly nattering."
Heidi Stevens of PopMatters wrote, "But the book, as a whole, is a lovely, touching, surprisingly sentimental portrait of a woman who, despite repeatedly baring her body and soul to audiences, remains a bit of an enigma: a young woman who sets the agenda, defies classification and seems utterly at home in her own skin." Leah Greenblatt of Entertainment Weekly gave the book a "B+" and that it was "guided mostly by a Woody-Allen-with-a-uterus kind of whimsy."
In November 2014, Dunham and the book became a subject of controversy following a profile of Dunham by conservative political commentator Kevin D. Williamson published in National Review. In her book, Dunham describes examining her sibling Cyrus's genitals when they were children out of curiosity, bribing them with candy for kisses and casually masturbating while lying in bed next to them. Williamson characterizes this as sexual abuse, but Lena, Cyrus, and child psychologists, sexual abuse experts, and researchers in human sexuality have rejected this notion.
In an interview about the controversy in Slate magazine's XX Factor blog, developmental psychologist Ritch Savin-Williams says that the cited passages do not indicate abuse and that "Children have been doing this stuff forever and ever and ever and ever, and they will do it forever and ever and ever." Child sexual abuse expert David Finkelhor said that a judgement requires more than a single incident, and psychologist Sharon Lamb opined that the incidents described in the book were "within the norms of childhood sexual behavior" and that "It wouldn’t be sex offender wrong, it would be inappropriate..."
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- Dunham, Lena (2014). Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's "Learned". Random House. ISBN 978-0812994995.
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- "COMBINED PRINT & E-BOOK NONFICTION". The New York Times. October 19, 2014. Retrieved November 7, 2014.
- Crosley, Sloane (October 9, 2014). "A Voice of a Generation". The New York Times. Retrieved November 7, 2014.
- Freeman, Hadley (September 30, 2014). "Not That Kind of Girl review – Lena Dunham exposes all, again". The Guardian. Retrieved November 7, 2014.
- Wolcott, James (November 7, 2014). "Callow, Grating, and Glib: The First-Person Fodder of Lena Dunham Inc". The New Republic.
- Stevens, Heidi (October 1, 2014). "Lena Dunham's 'Not That Kind of Girl' Packed With Witty Anecdotes, Honesty". PopMatters.
- Greenblatt, Leah (October 10, 2014). "Not That Kind of Girl (2014)". Entertainment Weekly. Retrieved November 7, 2014.
- McDonald, Soraya Nadia (November 3, 2014). "Lena Dunham responds to sites accusing her of sexually abusing her sister". The Washington Post. Retrieved November 8, 2014.
- Williamson, Kevin D. "Pathetic Privilege". No. November 3, 2014. Retrieved November 12, 2014.
- Moyer, Melinda Wenner. "Lena Dunham's Totally Normal Childhood". No. November 4, 2014. Retrieved February 10, 2014.
- Oldenburg, Ann (November 6, 2014). "Lena Dunham: Sexual abuse or sexual exploration?". USA Today. Retrieved February 13, 2015.
- Caffaro, John (November 6, 2014). "Sibling sexual assault is epidemic. No wonder Lena Dunham caused an uproar". The Washington Post. Retrieved April 16, 2015.
- Clark-Flory, Tracy. "Child therapists: Stop freaking out about Lena Dunham". Salon. No. November 4, 2014. Retrieved November 7, 2014.
- D'Zurilla, Christine (November 4, 2014). "Lena Dunham apologizes for her 'comic use' of 'sexual predator'". Los Angeles Times.
- Rothman, Michael (November 4, 2014). "Lena Dunham Apologizes for 'Sexual Predator' Section in Her Book". Good Morning America. ABC News. Retrieved November 7, 2014.