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assignment 4: 1: One problem with our article is that there is not methods section to the article at all. I thought that this was very disappointing being that there are going to be people who want to learn how to implement this type of therapy into their clinical work.

2: Sources: Academic journal- "Randomized Controlled Trial of Imago Relationship Therapy: Exploring Statistical and Clinical"Nathan C. Gehlert; Christopher D. Schmidt; Victoria Giegerich; Wade Luque, 2017 accessed 2019/18/2 Significancehttps://plu.mx/a?ebsco-client=s9002605&doi=10.1080/15332691.2016.1253518 Book- Luquet W. Imago relationship therapy. In: Reiter MD, Chenail RJ, eds. Behavioral, Humanistic-Existential, and Psychodynamic Approaches to Couples Counseling. New York, NY: Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group; 2017:148-177. https://ezproxy.lib.ndsu.nodak.edu/login?url=https://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=psyh&AN=2017-10053-007&site=ehost-live&scope=site. Accessed February 18, 2019.

3: 1- aside from what imago therapy is what are other things you could include in the introduction of the topic to make it less confusing?

• Aside from defining the topic, you should link it to theory, and indicate if it has research support.

2- I want to make sure that we are using the correct page to discuss are topic and the changes that we make to the wiki page. Do we post the assignments on the sandbox page (here) and then write what we added and what we did on the sandbox page in the talk page?

• You are doing this on the correct page. Just follow the instructions and if you need help just ask me.

3-would you prefer our sources to be uniformed and in APA citation or MLA citation?

• References and citations should be in Wikipedia format. You should have gone through some training for this. Look at the Wiki Ed page or my materials on the Bb site. J.R. Council (talk) 07:47, 1 March 2019 (UTC)

Dedie10 (talk) 04:41, 19 February 2019 (UTC)Desirae Shanahan-Silva

Assignment 4

One Problem/Issue With The Article: A problem with the article is that there is no history on imago therapy. How was it developed? Why was it developed? Who developed it? Who was the first to research it? What was research at the beginning like? I have so many questions and no answers.

Reference 1: Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT). (n.d.). Retrieved February 20, 2019, from https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/imago

Reference 2: Hendrix, H. (n.d.). The Evolution of Imago Relationship Therapy: A Personal and Professional Journey. Retrieved February 20, 2019, from http://imagorelationships.org/pro/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/02/The_Evolution_of_Imago_Relationship_Therapy-published_version.pdf

Question 1: Can we change the title of the page to 'Imago Relationship Therapy' instead of 'Imago Therapy'? Every research article that I've found has referred to it as such.

• I think you can. This is a question for Ian Ramjohn. You can find his contact information on the Wiki Ed Course Page for this course.

Question 2: Do you suggest any sections besides: introduction, history, methods? Could we do a section on future research, or is that too much of an opinion section?

• If there are published papers that discuss future research directions, you can use that information. If it's just your own thoughts, then that is not appropriate for an encyclopedia article. J.R. Council (talk) 07:58, 1 March 2019 (UTC)

- Liv Oland 2/20/19 @ 0124 PLEASE: sign your posts properly, with ~~~~. You need to be in Edit source mode to do this. J.R. Council (talk) 07:58, 1 March 2019 (UTC)

ASSIGNMENT 7

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of romantic relationship and couple therapy that focuses on relational counseling that transforms a conflict into an opportunity to grow and heal. IRT is accessible for all partners in romantic relationship, no matter the sexual orientation. IRT has the goal of allowing couples to understand each others feelings and childhood trauma and wounds on a more empathetic level. Using a deeper level of empathy to understand someone will allow couples to better understand their relationship on a personal level and romantic level. Doing this will allow the couple to better consciously understand their relationship.

Imago Relationship Therapy was developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Hendrix is the author of "Getting the Love You Want" A Guide for Couples (1988)', a best-selling book. If you break the definition down: imago is latin for "image" - in this sense it is referring to the "unconscious image of similar love." Hendrix found that there is a connection between the frustrations experienced in adult relationships and the experiences people have during early childhood. Hendrix was hoping to establish the "imago dialogue" within couples relationships so they could move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy so that the couple could create a deeper bound and loving connection. Experiences like frequent criticism or neglect as a child can come up when people are married or in a committed relationship. It is hard for people to conquer these problems in individual therapy sessions but they will typically arise again in partnerships. Hendrix says that when people can understand their partners feelings, and childhood experiences, they can begin to "heal their relationship and move toward a more conscious relationship".

This wikipedia page will cover the history of IRT, with additional information on the establishment of IRT. It will also cover the different methods of IRT, how this approach is used in the counseling setting, as well a what previous research has been done.

Liv Oland (talk) 16:22, 17 April 2019 (UTC)

Your suggestions from assignment 6: this still needs some work, but you should be ready to proceed with your article after making these changes:

1. Proofread! (Example: smilier love - I'm sure you mean "similar."
   1. Done!
2. Related to proofreading, do some editing to eliminate wordiness.
   1. Done!
3. Phrase all of this in third person, that is, don't use "you." Say, "a person", or "one".
   1. Done!
4. Delete the final sentence.
   1. Done!
5. Add hyperlinks to terms in lead that relate to other Wikipedia pages.
   1. Done - a lot!!!

Dr. Council's comments - Assignment 7

Good job! Please make a couple of major changes so you have a final draft ready to move to the Wikipedia main article space. These are:

1. Use proper reference style. You don't have your reference citations embedded in the text and have not generated a proper reference list. See Wikipedia:Citing sources
2. Use proper headings and section titles. See Wikipedia:Manual of Style.

• Also any final cleaning and polishing you can think of, but get your references right. Be sure to cite some published sources.

J.R. Council (talk) 19:18, 17 April 2019 (UTC)

Lead Section

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of romantic relationship and couple therapy that focuses on relational counseling that transforms a conflict into an opportunity to grow and heal. IRT is accessible for all partners in romantic relationship, no matter the sexual orientation. IRT has the goal of allowing couples to understand each other's feelings, childhood trauma, and wounds on a more empathetic level. Using a deeper level of empathy to understand someone will allow couples to better understand their relationship on a personal level and romantic level. Doing this will allow the couple to better consciously understand their relationship.

IRT was developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Hendrix is the author of "Getting the Love You Want" A Guide for Couples (1988)', a best-selling book. The word imago is latin for "image" - in this sense it is referring to the "unconscious image of similar love." Hendrix found that there is a connection between the frustrations experienced in adult relationships and the experiences people have during early childhood. Hendrix was hoping to establish the "imago dialogue" within couples relationships so they could move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy so that the couple could create a deeper bound and loving connection. Experiences like frequent criticism or neglect as a child can come up when people are married or in a committed relationship. It is hard for people to conquer these problems in individual therapy sessions but they will typically arise again in partnerships. Dr. Hendrix says that when people can understand their partners feelings, and childhood experiences, they can begin to "heal their relationship and move toward a more conscious relationship".

This wikipedia page will cover the history of IRT, with additional information on the establishment of IRT. It will also cover the different methods of IRT, how this approach is used in the counseling setting, as well a what previous research has been done.

Liv Oland (talk) 04:12, 18 April 2019 (UTC)

Theory History

Imago relationship therapy was developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt. After Hendrix signed his divorce papers he started to develop the theory. A student in his class at the university questioned Hendrix on how men and women have a hard time relating to one another. Hendrix was not sure why this was an issue but he was dedicated to finding the solution. This students question is what peaked his interest in starting imago relationship therapy. A lot of the IRT content and dynamics relate to Hendrix and Hunt's relationship; their relationship lead to the co-creation of imago relationship therapy.

\Dedie10 (talk) 21:13, 23 April 2019 (UTC)

This section is not well-written. Please edit for grammar and clarity.

Methods

Imago Relationship Therapy focuses on collaboratively healing childhood wounds couples share. According to Hendrix and Hunt, the human brain has a compelling non-negotiable drive to restore feelings of aliveness and wholeness with which people came into the world. It is believed by imago therapists that a person's brain constructs an image of characteristics from their primary caretakers; including both their best and worst traits. The brain's unconscious drive is to repair damage done in childhood, and the needs that were not met by finding a partner who can give us what our caretakers failed to provide. This is why people often form relationships with partners who reflect traits of their own parents. Peoples unconscious drives them towards this to seek healing and to resolve unresolved childhood wounds, in order to grow. In this way, wounds received from their parents, tend to be re-stimulated by new adult partners and potential future partners. The re-stimulation triggers old, unresolved emotions.

Both people in the relationship can learn how to heal one another, and appreciate each other for the person they are. Couples must engage in a specific type of dialogue for IRT to work. The conscious self may not be able to see and understand clearly the reflection of unresolved parental issues in his or her significant other. Nonetheless, peoples unconscious connects with their partners in its best (unconscious) effort to heal old wounds and allow love into their lives again. There are four principles that are used in the clinical setting for IRT. These four are thought to be the most essential ingredients to bring intimacy back into the relationship.

1. Becoming present to your partner-This requires a transformation of consciousness in which one discovers the “otherness” of the partner, in which we get that “my partner is not me, ”which promotes progress toward the important developmental leap known as differentiation..
2. Learning a new way to talk, that is, turning the conversation from an exchange of parallel monologues into a dialogue. Dialogue creates equality, safety, and connection.
3. Replacing judgment—the destroyer of intimacy—with curiosity, which insures safety and deepens connection, This requires eliminating all negativity, since negativity stimulates anxiety, signals danger, and thus activates defensiveness, perhaps the major barrier to intimacy.
4. Infusing the relationship with positive feelings, such as liking, appreciation, admiration, acceptance, and similar emotions. These deliberate positive verbal expressions (appreciations) are among the building blocks of authentic love, which is, for Imago, the consummation of intimate partnership and the epitome of a relationship that is both safe and passionate, comfortable and exciting.

The methods of IRT evolved from a one stage process to a three stage process. These stages consisted of mirroring, validation, and empathy. Mirroring refers to sending back the message the other person is asking. The validation stage is being able to summarize the other persons message and than articulate back the partners point of view. Empathy is the last stage, this stage allows the partner to feel what the other is feeling by imagining the others emotions. These stages allow a relationship to move from a ontology of separation to a ontology of connection. Thus meaning, that the couple is intrinsically connected.

Dedie10 (talk) 21:27, 23 April 2019 (UTC)

Dedie10 (talk) 03:56, 25 April 2019 (UTC)

I have properly formatted your list. J.R. Council (talk) 10:02, 25 April 2019 (UTC)

Resources

If you're looking for a local Imago Relation Therapist a great source for finding IRT therapists near you is the attached website. IRT is not found in every state, but worth the travel. You will see on this website that there are many locations for IRT in California. There is no reason behind this besides the fact that the website is based out of California. They note locations in the midwest but not many on the east coast of the United States of America.

IRT resources can be found through books, worksheets, workshops, and PDFs. Not all couples, or people, are comfortable speaking to therapists in person but may find ease learning about IRT in other ways. Visiting Hendrix and Hunt's website can fulfill all needs a couple is looking for, or a future therapist looking for more to read. They have information about finding a therapist near you, items to purchase (like books and workbooks), and ways to donate to IRT future research.

Liv Oland (talk) 04:12, 18 April 2019 (UTC)

References

Dedie10 (talk) 21:28, 23 April 2019 (UTC) Liv Oland (talk) 18:19, 24 April 2019 (UTC)