Talk:Sexual desire

Is there any difference between libido and sexual desire?

The lead section of this article claims that sexual desire has also been known as libido. Does this indicate that the two terms are completely synonymous? Jarble (talk) 14:52, 29 March 2013 (UTC)

I left a comment about this at the Libido talkpage. (I watch both pages, but am avoiding creating duplicate discussions.)— James Cantor (talk) 15:19, 29 March 2013 (UTC)

The relevant discussion can be found here. Jarble (talk) 22:06, 29 March 2013 (UTC)

It is deleted for archiving, where can I find it? BTW, I've found an article here: https://www.drgaylefriend.com/low-libido-vs-low-desire-whats-the-difference/ BabesLooker (talk) 03:57, 1 May 2021 (UTC)

This is regarding the Factors affecting sexual desire..This is generally seen that, in sexually active men, a short term abstinence from any sexual activity(ejaculation) leads to an increase in sexual desire. Erections are quicker and Orgasms after a period of short term abstinence are more intense..Time taken to ejaculate is also less..Why does this happen..? And why does the article Sexual desire have no mention of it..? — Preceding unsigned comment added by Ed beerman (talk • contribs) 12:22, 22 October 2013 (UTC)

I just added the same info & citation that you added to the Libido article. Not sure why you didn't just add it here, too. —72.89.112.39 (talk) 01:12, 26 August 2014 (UTC)

Section “Sex differences in sexual desire”

The section has some claims which I cannot verify from the sources. Specifically, the claim that men, on average, have more sexual partners over their lifetime than women is obviously false; if one excludes homosexual contacts, which is at least implicitly done here, the number is of necessity the same for both sexes. Therefore, I removed this sentence.

As regards the claim that sexual drive and sociosexuality is higher for men than women, I could not verify the source (Ostovich&Sabini 2004), since I have only access to the abstract, so I have not removed this claim; maybe someone with access to this journal could check it. — Preceding unsigned comment added by Fountaindyke (talk • contribs) 23:40, 13 December 2013 (UTC)

I moved this section down, per Wikipedia:Talk page guidelines#Layout; newer posts go last.

And I reverted you, per WP:Verifiability. As for not having ready access to the source, see WP:SOURCEACCESS. And, finally, do not claim that material is an error unless you know that it's an error. Flyer22 (talk) 23:50, 13 December 2013 (UTC)

For documentation on this talk page, there is also this edit and this edit. And for the record, this is not the only source out there that states that men generally have more sexual partners than women. Various WP:Reliable sources state that, and it's usually never clear whether or not they are including gay men. One reason for men having more sexual partners than women, as even sexologists and sociologists have stated, is that society generally discourages women from what they call "sleeping around" or "being promiscuous"; most societies are like that with regard to girls/women having sex, but are the exact opposite with regard to boys/men having sex, which is why female virginity is so much more valued than male virginity by virtually all societies and words such as slut and whore (with whore usually not meaning "prostitute" in modern times) exist especially for women. Flyer22 (talk) 15:23, 14 December 2013 (UTC)

It is just mathematics. If we are talking about hetero relationships then each partnership involves M & F so the numbers are the same. There is a NYTimes article about it here [1]. Men always report having more partners than women which is why this myth exists. If a source says something that is impossible we should counterbalance it with another source. Bhny (talk) 17:48, 14 December 2013 (UTC)

Note: I replied to Bhny on my talk page. Various researchers are pretty adamant that men generally have more sexual partners than women, and they believe this for a variety of reasons; I touched on one of the most obvious reasons above. They are also clear that they believe that many men are honest about the number of sexual partners they have, as many men do have the same number of sexual partners as women and often report having one or a few. There are not as many sources stating that men and women generally have the same number of sexual partners, so WP:Due weight and its subsections factor into something like this. WP:Due weight also makes it clear that not every claim needs to or should be "counterbalanced" with an opposing claim. I have nothing more to state on this matter. Flyer22 (talk) 18:01, 14 December 2013 (UTC)

I'm going to add the NYT ref since it is a reliable source. If a source says 1+1 = 3, it is obviously ok to provide another reliable source that says the correct answer. Bhny (talk) 18:09, 14 December 2013 (UTC)

how one can be satisfy by it self when desire for sex? Shajia Anees (talk) 16:31, 7 April 2016 (UTC)

Mathematically it must be true that 'on average men and women have the same number of partners'. But that is not the same as saying 'the average man and woman have the same number of partners'. The average man may well have more partners than the average woman because some (in fact all 'professional' women have many hundreds even thousands of male partners. So it depends on which method of calculating the statistical term 'average' one uses. Cassandra — Preceding unsigned comment added by 85.210.218.108 (talk • contribs)

Asexuality vs Sexual desire disorder

I find it appalling that asexuality is only mentioned once while such a disproportionate amount of time is spent on essentially chastising people for not having enough sex/saying there's something wrong with us. Asexuality is a a sexual (dis)-orientation and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. There should be more coverage of asexuality and queerplatonic-related subjects instead of skewing the entire subject matter towards rehabilitating toxic heteronormative behaviors and attitudes towards people who don't fit neatly into the monogamy fundamentalist/nuclear family box.

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EDIT: I'm more gray-romantic, graysexual with asexual-tendencies but the notion that having less sex = less humanity/health needs to be brutally, relentlessly, ruthlessly and mercilessly disassembled and decimated with unrestrained and ardent fervor. The content of this article proves as much.

--Abbazorkzog (talk) 17:52, 28 November 2020 (UTC)

Redirect issue

Hello everyone. I have just noticed that the redirect line given at the start leads to a non-existent page. Does the book's page exist or is it possible to remove the above-said redirect? Thanking you in advance. TSK201911 (talk) 07:06, 1 February 2021 (UTC)

Fixed; thank you. The article it linked to had been deleted as a copyright violation. Crossroads ^-talk- 16:27, 1 February 2021 (UTC)

Incorrect definition of asexuality

Asexuality is not the lack of sexual desire. To be asexual refers to those who do not experience sexual attraction towards others, but you can still desire the activity. str.cns (talk) 20:53, 26 February 2023 (UTC)

This is unsourced and self-contradictory. Crossroads ^-talk- 00:19, 27 February 2023 (UTC)

While it is unsourced, it is not self-contradictory. Sexual attraction and sexual desire are not synonymous, and asexuality is more commonly defined as a lack of sexual attraction to others, than a lack of sexual desire.

When looking at the content of this article, str.cns seems to be referring to a completely unsourced sentence in the lead which reads However, not every person experiences sexual desire; those who do not may be labelled asexual. In addition to being unsourced, there is no corresponding content in the article body on asexuality. As such I'll be removing it for now. Sideswipe9th (talk) 01:39, 1 March 2023 (UTC)