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Relationship forming focuses on the decision-making process leading to a relationship. It therefore differs from relationship therapy which focuses on improving an existing relationship.[1] Put differently, relationship forming is about "making the right choice", while relationship therapy is about "making the choice work". Discontent at failure to achieve such a relationship is on occasion referred to as TFL (true forced loneliness); although some TFLers may have life satisfaction despite not forming a relationship.[2]


Summary of differencesEdit

  • Therapy is typically studied and written on by therapists, while relationship forming is studied and written on by intermediaries.
  • Therapy has a reactive approach and tries to solve an existing problem, relationship forming has a proactive approach and tries to prevent future problems.
  • Therapy focuses on couples that are often in their 30s to 50s, while relationship forming focused on singles who are often younger.

See alsoEdit


  1. ^ Gottman, John (1999). The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work. UK: Hachette.
  2. ^ "Involuntary Celibacy: Causes and Treatments". Dustin K MacDonald. 2016-05-14. Retrieved 2018-09-04.

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