I would encourage anyone that has questions or concerns about stalking to contact me. I would like to teach people about stalking and how to recognize that it is happening.
I had an unusual perpetrator in my stalking; he hid his obsession of me for thirteen months, pretending to be a university school friend...but coerced me when I went to him for help while I was in a tormemted and weakened state of mind (crying, shaking, stressed). In other words, he saw his prey at her weakest and chose that time to attack. And as with all stalkers, screaming at him to stay away from me only heightened his resolve.
He grew up being sexually abused by his father while his mother looked the other way, but my daughters and I paid the price for his refusal to deal with his own problems...his own head. I have realized his father forcing himself on his son taught my stalker "love" includes forcing yourself on someone else. In order to feel powerful and in control, a stalker will ALWAYS chose a victim that does not want them. I actually think a stalker would not want someone who did want them!