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Bwuen001 (talk) 04:21, 6 December 2018 (UTC)

Attached.

Attached. is a book that explores attachment theory in adult relationships. Based on [attachment theory] by [John Bowlby]. Attached. was written by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller and aims to help readers find and sustain love.

The authors divide attachment into four different styles: secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and anxious-avoidant attachment. The authors write how each style functions in a relationship and how each style can learn to recognize and change their behaviors for better relationships. The book is written in the format of a self-help book, and acts as a guide to help readers recognize their attachment style and that of their partner or potential partner. They have a quiz on their website attachedthebook.com that readers can use to determine their attachment style.

The book is for sale from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indie Bound. There are also United Kingdom, Spanish, and German editions of the book.

The Authors

Dr. Amir Levine M.D. is a practicing adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He received his degree from the residency program at the New York Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University. He is currently working there as the principal investigator on a research project sponsored by the National Institutes of Health. He also has a part-time private practice in New York City.

Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A. graduated from Columbia University with a degree in social-organizational psychology. She worked as a corporate consultant for several management consulting firms before co-writing Attached..

Secure Attachment Style

Adults who are securely attached feel comfortable with intimacy and are not preoccupied with their relationship. They are usually warm and loving. According to Dr. Levine and Heller, securely attached adults make up the majority of the population. According to the authors, secure people can be in functional relationships with people of all attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious avoidant.

Anxious Attachment Style

Adults with an anxious attachment style are often preoccupied with their relationship. They perceive threats to the relationship and worry about their partner and their partner's ability to love them back. They are comfortable with and pursue intimacy. According to the authors, people with an anxious attachment style tend to do best with people with a secure attachment style.

Avoidant Attachment Style

Adults with an avoidant attachment style perceive intimacy as a loss of freedom. They constantly try to distance their partner as a way of establishing independence. According to the authors, people with an avoidant attachment style tend to do best with people with a secure attachment style.

Anxious-Avoidant Attachment Style

Anxious-Avoidant attachment is the most rare attachment style. People with this attachment style share qualities of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Main and Solomon called this attachment style "disorganized attachment". According to the authors, people with this attachment style have the hardest time in a relationship and tend to best with those with a secure attachment style.

Anxious and Avoidant Couples

The authors discuss the pattern that comes into play when a person with an anxious attachment style and a person with an avoidant attachment style are in a relationship. Because the person with the anxious attachment style is always trying to pursue intimacy and worrying, the person with the avoidant attachment style pulls even further back and a pattern starts to form. The authors write how people with this attachment dynamic in their relationship can navigate their relationship more harmoniously.