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Lipstick Lesbian pride flag
(introduced in the weblog This Lesbian Life in 2010)[1][2]
Lipstick Lesbian pride flag without kiss[2]
(copy of original flag bars, but revision designer is unknown)

Lipstick lesbian is slang for a lesbian who exhibits a greater amount of feminine gender attributes relative to other gender expressions, such as wearing make-up (thus, lipstick), wearing dresses or skirts and having other characteristics associated with feminine women.[3] In popular usage, the term lipstick lesbian is also used to characterize the feminine gender expression of bisexual women who are romantically or sexually interested in other women,[3] or to the broader topic of female-female sexual activity among feminine women.[4][5]

Definitions and societyEdit

The term lipstick lesbian was used in San Francisco at least as far back as the 1980s. In 1982, Priscilla Rhoades, a journalist with the gay newspaper The Sentinel, wrote a feature story on "Lesbians for Lipstick". In 1990, the gay newspaper OutWeek covered the Lesbian Ladies Society, a Washington, D.C.–based social group of "feminine lesbians" that required women to wear a dress or skirt to its functions.[6] The term is thought to have emerged in wide usage during the early 1990s. A 1997 episode of the television show Ellen widely publicized the phrase. In the show, Ellen DeGeneres's character, asked by her parents whether a certain woman is a "dipstick lesbian", explains that the term is lipstick lesbian, and comments that "I would be a chapstick lesbian." An alternate term for lipstick lesbian is doily dyke.[7][8]

Some authors have commented that the term lipstick lesbian is commonly used broadly to refer feminine bisexual women or to heterosexual women who temporarily show romantic or sexual interest in other women to impress men; for example, Jodie Brian, in the 2009 Encyclopedia of Gender and Society, Volume 1, states, "A common depiction of lipstick lesbianism includes conventionally attractive and sexually insatiable women who desire one another but only insofar as their desire is a performance for male onlookers or a precursor to sex with men."[4] In Intersectionality, Sexuality and Psychological Therapies, the term lipstick lesbian is defined as "a lesbian/bisexual woman who exhibits 'feminine' attributes such as wearing makeup, dresses and high heeled shoes"; the book adds that "more recent iterations of feminine forms of lesbianism such as 'femme' (e.g. wears dresses/skirts or form-fitting jeans, low cut tops, makeup, jewellery), or 'lipstick lesbian' [...], are an attempt to define as both lesbian and feminine."[3] Author M. Paz Galupo stated, "Young women exposed to mainstream media outlets are seeing expressions of the same-sex desire between women much more frequently than ever before. However, mainstream images of same-sex desire between women are very specific, meaning they are often of hyper-feminine women ('lipstick lesbians')."[5]

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  1. ^ McCray, Natalie (July 28, 2010). "Lipstick Lesbian Pride!!!". This Lesbian Life. Archived from the original on November 19, 2015. Retrieved 24 January 2019.
  2. ^ a b Mathers, Charlie (1 January 2018). "18 Pride flags you might not have seen before". Gay Star News. Retrieved 9 June 2019.
  3. ^ a b c Roshan das Nair, Catherine Butler (2012). Intersectionality, Sexuality and Psychological Therapies: Working with Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Diversity. John Wiley & Sons. p. 49. ISBN 1119967430. Retrieved April 5, 2015.CS1 maint: uses authors parameter (link)
  4. ^ a b Brien, Jodi (2009). Encyclopedia of Gender and Society, Volume 1. Sage Publications. p. 524. ISBN 1412909163. Retrieved April 5, 2015.
  5. ^ a b Paz, M Galupo (2013). Bisexual Women: Friendship and Social Organization. Routledge. p. 55. ISBN 1136577122. Retrieved April 5, 2015.
  6. ^ Lynch, Patsy (4 April 1990). "Lesbian Ladies (or where did all the femmes go?)" (PDF). OutWeek. p. 44.
  7. ^ Keshia Kola (2007-11-16). "The Shesaurus: America's First Women's Dictionary-Thesaurus". Retrieved 2007-11-18.
  8. ^ "Issue 71" (PDF). G3 Magazine. April 2007. p. 10. Archived from the original (PDF) on 2008-10-02. Retrieved 2007-11-19. Cite uses deprecated parameter |deadurl= (help)

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