Lenore Skenazy

Lenore Skenazy (/lɪˈnɔːr skəˈnzi/) is president of Let Grow, a non-profit promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement. She is also a speaker, blogger, syndicated columnist, author, and reality show host. A mother who lives in the Queens borough of New York City, her controversial decision to let her then-9-year-old son take the New York City Subway home alone became a national story and prompted massive media attention. She was dubbed, "America's Worst Mom." In response, Skenazy founded the book and blog "Free-Range Kids," with the aim of "fighting the belief that our children are in constant danger from creeps, kidnapping, germs, grades, flashers, frustration, failure, baby snatchers, bugs, bullies, men, sleepovers and/or the perils of a non-organic grape." Let Grow, co-founded in 2018 with Daniel Shuchman, Dr. Peter Gray and Prof. Jonathan Haidt, continues the quest to make it "easy, normal and legal" to give kids back some old-fashioned independence of thought and deed. Skenazy is Jewish[1][2] with roots in Çanakkale, Turkey.[3]

Lenore Skenazy
Lenore Skenazy, standing hands in pocket.jpg
Alma materYale University
Columbia University
OccupationWriter and reality show host
Known forFree-range parenting
TelevisionWorld's Worst Mom

CareerEdit

Skenazy is a 1981 graduate of Yale University. She got her master's degree from Columbia in 1983.[citation needed]

Skenazy spent fourteen years as a columnist for the New York Daily News, but was fired in December 2006.[4] She moved to The New York Sun and wrote there until it shut down in 2008. Skenazy also wrote and reported for NPR, as well as CNBC, and was featured in the Bravo series Tabloid Wars.

 
Lenore Skenazy speaking at PorcFest, New Hampshire Porcupine Freedom Festival

Skenazy's column in The New York Sun, "Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone," described her making the controversial decision to let her son take the New York City Subway home alone, which was completed without incident.[5] The piece resulted in a flood of reactions ranging from accusations of child abuse to fond memories of first-time subway trips and childhood freedom. The story was covered on The Today Show, Fox News, NPR,[6] and MSNBC[7] two days after the column appeared, later becoming worldwide news and being featured on Penn & Teller: Bullshit!, The View, Nightline, Good Morning America, CBS News, NBC Nightly News, Anderson Cooper, Dr. Phil, Nancy Grace, The BBC, the CBC, and ABC in Australia. In 2015, she was profiled in The New Yorker and The New York Times.[8][9] The popularity of Skenazy's blog led to the creation of the book, Free-Range Kids, published in 2009 by John Wiley & Sons.[citation needed]

On the blog, Skenazy proposed May 22, 2010, as the first "Take Our Children to the Park & Leave Them There Day"—a day for children to learn how to play by themselves without constant supervision.[10] It has been celebrated every year since.[citation needed] Skenazy also became the host of the reality television show World's Worst Mom on Discovery Life. The 13-episode series features Skenazy visiting extremely anxious parents, including the mother of a 10-year-old who still spoon-fed him, the mother of an 8-year-old who bought him a skateboard but only let him "ride" it on the grass, and the mother of a 13-year-old who still took him into the ladies' room.[11] With humor, kindness, and some firmness, Skenazy separated the parents from their children and had the children do some tasks on their own, such as running an errand, or learning, at age 10, how to ride a bicycle. In the end, 12 of the 13 couples relaxed so much that they became "Free-Range Parents" themselves. Now Skenazy lectures around the world, including speeches at Microsoft, DreamWorks, Audi, The Yale Child Study Center, Boston Children's Hospital, Wellesley, the Sydney Opera House, and schools and conferences.[citation needed]

At Let Grow, Skenazy's goal is to renormalize children doing things on their own. She says this is easiest when whole groups "Let go and Let Grow" together, so the adults do not feel foolish or fearful taking their eyes off their kids. Let Grow's two school initiatives to increase kids' (and parents') confidence are:

  • The Let Grow Project—Teachers tell the children to go home and ask their parents if they can do one thing on their own that they have not done yet—walk the dog, run an errand, play outside. This little push breaks the ice of fear. When the kids come back, flush with independence, anxiety is replaced by a flood of joy. The project changes parents as much as the kids.
  • The Let Grow Play Club—This is Dr. Peter Gray's initiative: Schools stay open before or after school for free play. Adults are on hand for emergencies, but otherwise do not intervene. Children of all ages playing together make up their own games, solve their own problems, learning the social-emotional skills (focus, empathy, compromise) they do not get in the classroom.

The PBS NewsHour profiled these initiatives in 2018, as did The Wall Street Journal and NPR.

In 2018, Utah became the first state in the U.S. to pass the Free-Range Parenting bill, assuring parents that they can give their children some independence without this being mistaken for neglect. Several states are considering similar bills as of 2019.[citation needed]

BibliographyEdit

  • Free-Range Kids: Giving Our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts with Worry. John Wiley & Sons. 2009. ISBN 978-0470471944. OCLC 268790698.
  • Who’s the Blonde that Married What’s-His-Name: The Ultimate Tip of the Tongue Test of Everything You Know You Know…But Can’t Remember Right Now (Penguin Books, June 2009)
  • "The Dysfunctional Family Christmas Songbook" (Broadway Books, 2004), with co-author John Boswell.
  • "When Good Parents Get Arrested". Reader's Digest. May 2016.
  • Why Parents are More Paranoid than Ever, NY Post, March 31, 2018

ReferencesEdit

  1. ^ Skenazy, Lenore. "A Jew Finally Frets About Heaven & Hell". amNY. Archived from the original on March 20, 2022. Retrieved March 20, 2022.
  2. ^ Shefa, Sheri (June 9, 2011). "Loosen the reins, columnist says to overprotective parents". The Canadian Jewish News. The Canadian Jewish News. Retrieved March 20, 2022.
  3. ^ Skenazy, Lenore (February 17, 1985). "The Road to Canakkale: In Search of Turkish Roots". Nash Holdings. The Washington Post. Retrieved March 20, 2022.
  4. ^ Kelly, Keith (December 1, 2006). "Happy Holiday News – Hometown Paper Fires Columnist Skenazy". New York Post. Retrieved October 12, 2017.
  5. ^ Skenazy, Lenore (April 1, 2008). "Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone". nysun.com. Archived from the original on May 6, 2022. Retrieved September 21, 2015.
  6. ^ "At What Age Should Kids Ride the Subway Alone?". npr.org. April 9, 2008. Retrieved September 21, 2015.
  7. ^ "Mom lets son, 9, ride subway alone". todayf.com. Archived from the original on April 8, 2008. Retrieved September 21, 2015.
  8. ^ "Mother May I?". The New Yorker. February 23, 2015. Retrieved September 21, 2015.
  9. ^ Jane E. Brody (January 19, 2015). "Parenting Advice From 'America's Worst Mom'". Retrieved September 29, 2015.
  10. ^ "It's "Take Our Children to the Park and Leave Them There Day"". Reason.com. May 22, 2010. Retrieved September 21, 2015.
  11. ^ "'World's Worst Mom' goes globe-trotting". December 2011.

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