Girlfriend experience

A girlfriend experience (GFE) is a commercial sex service that blurs the boundaries between a financial transaction and a romantic relationship. It ranges from a transactional sex relationship[1] to a client paying a sex worker to pretend to be his girlfriend during the session.[2] If the sex worker is male, the service is called a boyfriend experience.[3]

North AmericaEdit

Within the sex industry of the United States and Canada, GFE is a common term for a sexual encounter in which both the sex worker and the client are willing to engage in reciprocal sexual pleasure and some degree of emotional intimacy.[4] A "girlfriend experience" generally involves more personal interaction than a traditional call girl or escort offers. There is a focus on not just having sex, but also having more of a comprehensive experience. The details vary widely from person to person.[5] In the field of sex work, sex workers impart a sense of authenticity in order to make the experience more pleasurable for their customer, as well as to make the outcome more lucrative for themselves.[6] According to sociologist Elizabeth Bernstein, this makes it more meaningful for both client and sex worker as it involves a particular form of emotional labor.[7]

As an example, a GFE may start with dinner at a restaurant followed by making out on the sofa in an apartment and end with non-rushed sex and cuddling. The experience can include kissing, in contrast to the service traditionally provided by escorts who have a reputation for not kissing their clients.[citation needed]

The term "client" is often used to describe a person who pays prostitutes for sex.[8] However, in the escort agency code that has grown up around the GFE, clients often call themselves "hobbyists" and refer to a prostitute who provides a GFE as a "nice girl".[5] In a GFE situation, the client would pay for time spent with the call girl meaning: social interaction, dating, or sexual acts. Many clients emerge through the need for a feeling of closeness without the commitment of a relationship. To a certain extent, it eliminates the feeling of guilt or fear of "addiction" to a relationship.[4]

Indoor prostitution, which includes the use of massage parlors, saunas, brothels, strip clubs and escort agencies,[9] is more likely than street prostitution to involve conversation, affection and mutual sexual pleasure.[4] Some ranch brothels in the United States advertise themselves as GFE establishments, including Dennis Hof's Love Ranch South,[10] Moonlite Bunny Ranch,[11] Kit Kat Ranch[12] and Sheri's Ranch.[13]

Southeast AsiaEdit

Research in Cambodia published in 2010 identified a number of waitresses and bartenders who were also working as "professional girlfriends" with "western boyfriends". They relied on these relationships for their livelihood but did not regard themselves as "prostitutes" and often sought love and marriage as well as material comforts. In these relationships, there was a performance of intimacy which lay somewhere between the feigned and the genuine.[1]

In Thailand, some independent sex workers are reported to work as "professional girlfriends", providing company and affection to foreign men and middle-class Thai men, and only having sex with their clients occasionally. Their remuneration is provided in the form of things such as clothing and visits to the cinema.[14]

See alsoEdit


  1. ^ a b Hoefinger, Heidi (2010). Negotiating Intimacy: Transactional Sex and Relationships Among Cambodian Professional Girlfriends (Doctoral thesis). Goldsmiths, University of London. Archived from the original on 2017-08-21. Retrieved 2017-08-21.
  2. ^ Flowers 2011, p. 151.
  3. ^ Weitzer 2007, pp. 28–33
  4. ^ a b c Huff 2011, pp. 111–125
  5. ^ a b Anka Radakovich (29 March 2012). "The real-life girlfriend experience". GQ. Archived from the original on 23 April 2012. Retrieved 19 April 2012.
  6. ^ Bernstein 2010
  7. ^ Fulcher, James; Scott, John (2011). Sociology. Oxford: Oxford University Press. p. 662. ISBN 9780199563753.
  8. ^ Cameron & Kulick 2003, p. 20
  9. ^ Farley 2005, p. 952
  10. ^ "Menu - Love Ranch Vegas". Archived from the original on 31 October 2015. Retrieved 1 November 2015.
  11. ^ "The Girlfriend Experience". Moonlite Bunny Ranch. Archived from the original on 31 March 2018. Retrieved 7 January 2018.
  12. ^ "KitKat Ranch home page". KitKat Ranch website. Archived from the original on 2019-04-01. Retrieved 2019-12-16.
  13. ^ "Sheri's Ranch Sex Menu". Archived from the original on 12 April 2016. Retrieved 11 April 2016.
  14. ^ Chia, Jasmine (24 September 2017). "Men and their mistresses". Bangkok Post.

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